Here in Colorado there is a 1st Grader who is caught up in the mess that adults have made of her life. Not the adults she has for parents, but those who are in the social/political cloud around her. Coy was born a boy, but according to her parents began to show preferences for girl things as early as 18 months. I can believe that - without any urging, my daughter gravitated towards princesses and pink, and always headed for the sparkly clothing display in the store.
The big issue is not that Coy is boy or girl, but what bathroom she should use at school. In all outward appearances she is a girl, so why should she be using the boys bathroom? I can't imagine how the boys would feel seeing her using the urinal in her sparkly purple skirt. Until recently, I doubt that anyone really knew Coy had "boy parts" under that skirt. Her parents surely have discussed this as best they can with a 6 year old and helped her understand that she is different.
My husband and I see things differently; he thinks the parents influence the child's preferences, but I don't see how. If a kid wants to play with cars or dolls they will. Our daughter never liked dolls, and Lightning McQueen was her favorite character for a long, long time. Yet now as a fourth grader she is as girly as the rest.
And to what end is this issue really necessary to be brought out into the open? Why did the school choose to create a problem where there isn't one? There has never been a danger or threat to other students. Now Coy's quiet existence as an innocent child has been turned into another media mess. Some thing just are better left alone!
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